School is getting underway for most people, which means a return to homework after a summer of relaxation (insert collective groan). I know many parents (and kids) struggle with near-daily battles over homework. Sometimes, the process takes several hours and is peppered with emotional landmines, leaving all involved frustrated and upset.
But what if it didn’t have to be that way? What if parents could disengage from homework and put it back in the child’s court? What if kids could learn to manage the homework process entirely independently and, in the process, gain confidence and competence that will carry over into other aspects of their lives?
Does that sound too good to be true? It is not! In this episode, we walk you through how to end the homework hassle once and for all.
WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:
- The six hidden values of homework (that make it a character-building experience)
- How homework can set kids up for success in other areas of life as well
- Why the way in which parents handle homework sets a precedent that will also influence how parents and children will approach other challenges in the home.
- Why parents should take on the role of homework consultant rather than a participant, and what that looks like.
- How parents inadvertently encourage learned helplessness in their children by being highly involved in the homework process.
- The ABCs of effective homework management – why they are important, and how to put them into practice. (“All by Myself,” “Back off,” and “Create Limits”)
BOOKS WE REFERENCE:
YOU MIGHT ALSO ENJOY:
- Episode 018: How (and Why) to Stop Being a Helicopter Parent
- Episode 005: Help! My Kids Won’t Listen!
- The Only Back to School Hack You Will Ever Need
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