Have you ever wondered about the role of consequences in parenting? Do you worry that the consequences you assign to your children’s misbehavior are too harsh? Or not harsh enough? Do you wonder if you should use natural or logical consequences? Do you use the same consequences over and over, hoping that they will eventually produce the desired results?
If you answered yes to any of those questions, you are not alone, and you are in the right place. Today, we are delving into the hot-button topic of consequences, so buckle up!
What you will learn:
- How to decide on appropriate consequences for kids of all ages
- How to think outside the box in the realm of consequences
- The magic of delayed consequences
- How to implement the tickets and strikes systems in your home (these worked magic for our kids!)
- The importance of consistency (which does not mean assigning the same consequences all the time)
- Why consequences are not always necessary
- How to determine when a wake-up call (or HUGE consequence) is necessary, and some ideas of punishments that might fit the bill
You will also hear:
Several personal stories of consequences that we used with our children, including the time when we grounded our son from reading (and why that made sense). Don’t worry…he still loves to read at age 19! Some of these stories are memorable and hilarious. They will definitely go down in Sheppard family lore!
Books I recommend for further exploration of this topic:
- The Well-Behaved Child, by John Rosemond
- Teen-Proofing, by John Rosemond
- Have a New Kid by Friday, by Dr. Kevin Leman
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